Amorzade

When it comes to love, I am a sucker for it…I still believe in the happily ever….*coversface*

And I know a couple that has made me love over and over again, even when I thought I could not do it anymore. They depict a lot of what I thought a love story was, full of drama, anger, love, romanticism and magic!

These two anonymous persons, let us call them *Wanda and Charles, became more than my friends through the years. I have adopted them as an inspiration to my future love story, and if it does not go as planned, I have no clue what I will depend on!!

The title might sounds strange to you, but it refers to the fusion of two words in portuguese (Love and Friendship)

So let us get to know this love story and hope you have more stories that I can sob over, some ice cream. If you relate, tap yourself in the back. You will be just fine! ;)

I tried and get the thoughts of both in separate occasions! I think the interview went pretty well and made me sob even more!

Wanda:

Q: How old are you?

A: I am 23 and he is 25, we have been together for 5 years, had a one year interruption and a couple of months between the two first years and the last 3.

Q: How have you overcome the difficult moments?

A: How we have overcome the hardest parts, is such a complicated question. We have had many difficult moments that were overcome in diverse manners, but through the years we understood that most of them could have been avoided, because most of them only existed because of us – instead of looking at the relationship as the beneficiary, we were looking at ourselves as superior, and the other person has to make us happy independently of the circumstances. But above all, it is love, lots of it, that emanates our faith and courage for the relationship.

For example, the decision that the relationship is ours, despite all the difficulties that may come, giving up is not the solution, although this may not be easy it is a mixed decision with the insane desire to have the other person in our lives.

When we first broke up, we separated for a year and some, it was terrible for me, especially because the way it ended, the man that I love with all my strength and was my husband to be and the potential father of my children once told me : I do not love you, you are not worth of me. But today I am proud to say that he loves me and always loved me. It was hard at first to hear those words, feel those attitudes, feel reduced to nothing, and many times I wanted to give up, but love is a force with many definitions is the most complicated. It changes and surprises us all the time, I could not believe the love that I felt, that moved me… I went after so many times, and many times I was humiliated, mistreated, hard feelings…

But one day I managed, with the Grace of God and our Lady of the Grace, to awaken him to a reality that was within him, but he did not allow himself to believe and live due to so many things (pride, machismo and superiority, etc)

Anyway, today we are more than happy, and we still have not reached full happiness, but this cross is carried today with 4 hands, and not 2 pulling from their own side like before, now it tastes and certainty of victory.

But above all this has to do with the environment in which we are inserted, especially, our relationship with our friends, by the Grace of God, who are mutual. We complete each other, it is something so profound and beautiful, that we do not understand it ourselves. Love is the base of everything, and it is not the love that everyone thinks about, wanting to be together all the time, that feeling that hurts, NO. This is the love that is humble and pacient, that believes in all, that gives you strength, courage, that makes you cry of emotion, that makes you believe in the other, help the other independently of the circumstances. It is the love that makes you more than just boyfriend/girlfriend, siblings, one for the other and of the other….It makes you laugh, laugh and laugh and when we are not together if an hour goes by it feels like an eternity….ehehehehe….

Charles:

Q: How do you celebrate your best moments? (no explicit content please…:/)

A: There are so many moments…But there is the day I call D day. I had spoken to her of this day a lot, but she had no idea what it was. I prepared her a surprise at my house, I had decorated and everything, prepared a candle light dinner, wine, sea food, fruits for deserts and a gold necklace as a gift.

Q: How do you overcome the habits of the one another? 

A: I am very irritating. Wanda can say I am very pacient, because when I see that something is wrong, I will tak and talk and talk! Sometimes, I even talk alone, but it does not make me give up sitting down and talking it out. Communicating is how we will understand each other….always.

Wanda and Charles

Q: Which word best describes you? 

A: Love and friendship = Loveship (In Portuguese: amor + amizade = AMORZADE, the title of my article of today, I tried to keep this essence…)

Q: What are the plans in the next 5 years?

A: Well…wedding, living together, children, prosperity, happiness….amusement….

Q: Has there ever been a moment of fatal jealousy?

Wanda: haaa... he is a very jealous person…someone who likes to hide or pretend not to be… He is very irritating and very jealous, some say he is possessive, I do not know, sometime during the relationship this was a concern to me, and it affected me in relation to my attitude to him. But we are not going out to remain the same throughout, we think about living together, and some day get married with children and very happy; this happiness is created by attitudes, and to think that he could be jealous over silly things sometimes suffocated me and I would end the relationship due to fatigue. And everything was ruined.

Thanks to efficient communication, without noise, we managed to understand each other and growing up each day, rooting for a better relationship, taking other people as examples, accepting critic and growing with them, things changed.

Charles: But there have been, yes, very serious ones, but I changed…and Wanda can confirm. There is more trust, more friendship which had made it better 

Q: Who do you look for when there is no agreement between you two?

Firstly, close friends like you …but most of the time we try to solve our problems without looking for anyone.

Q: A message to the future you?

Charles: I let this one for the wifey to respond.

Wanda:  A message to the future us??? hummmmmm
It’s like this, happiness is not something you build like everyone thinks, that you spend most of your time suffering and someday you attain it. NOPE. Happiness is in every detail of our life, even in the sadness, the hurt, happiness is present, not as something tangible, but as the renovation of something better. Love is something that has a past in itself, such as life, you live each day with intensity, many times you are insecure about who may be your love, the voice of love never fails, it is not late and it is not mistaken, to hear it you need silence. To fight for this love you need decisiveness and courage. Love is not only a woman and a man, it is more than that. It is in a sincere hug of a friend, in the joke of a sister, in the true kiss of a brother, but especially in the certainty that during the affliction, your friend becomes your sibling and is a part of you…

Charles: teach your children how to build a family, do not let them miss your love and attention… Tell them how good it is to sit and have meals all sitted together, explain to them the meaning of that. Teach your children to fight for what they desire, teach them to confront the dangers of live, make them proud of having you as their parents…and to you, when you see the fruit of your efforts, you will say that you fought a good fight, you played your role…and above all, continue to have this (AMORZADE)...*ehehehehe*

I have no conclusion to these beautiful words from love.

So I hope and wish you all the best. May Love be with you.


I dedicate this to you. I hope that you remember all the good moments and I hope that you thrive in all you do. Love you to bits my parents! ;)

Peace

 *fictional names.